It's all too easy to come from a place of lack. A place of fear.
Fear of scarcity, fear that the good things will be taken from us, fear that we don't buy the right clothes or there isn't enough food in the fridge or night cream near the sink. Fear that there aren't enough jobs for the working or paychecks for the employed. We're stuck in a belief system that tells us if we could just get one more thing, whatever that thing is, we'd finally give ourselves permission to live in the fullest expression of our joy.
These beliefs are born of constant Instagram-checking, news-watching, and article-reading. They're fueled by the latest and greatest technological advancements; of our consumer-driven society which tells us from a very young age that the goal of life is to accrue money to buy things. We're bombarded with messages that reiterate to us we could always be striving towards a better lifestyle; that if we really want to feel good about ourselves we can purchase a new fall coat or start being more organized or paint our living room a new color. We watch and listen as those around us buy into this mess, too, and I think we become scared.
We become afraid of other people's things, of their successes, of their advancements. We watch in fear that the good stuff: promotions, new fall coats, luxury, happiness, time, is being spread too thin. Suddenly, we believe we don't have enough, aren't good enough, that there isn't enough to go around.
I know this little number because I'm no stranger to it. Comparison becomes the thief of joy and its partner in crime is usually self-pity. And we fuel each other on, whether it's jumping on the self-bashing bandwagon or venting about the economy. Misery loves company, and so does lack-based thinking. But the truth is, unless you're going hungry tonight, you have an immense advantage in this world that many others don't. We forget that sometimes, in between the glossy pages of another catalog, or a few clicks away from an envious status update.
I'm challenging myself to step out of this fear-based thinking and realize more of the wealth around me. To stop echoing that I don't have enough money or time when I'm ripe as a peach and have shoes on my feet and feet on my damn legs. I'm challenging you to do the same.
I don't spend my entire day bathed in grace--that shouldn't be a surprise. But I'm going to try and start each day with a more grateful heart. Maybe that small moment of gratitude is the best way to feel more abundant in this instant. Maybe those instants will become more frequent, more free-flowing, and as prominent as the scarcity-based thinking that dominates our culture.